What does this even mean? How do we instantly shift from a space of hurt, anger and sadness to simple flow? Sure if you’ve done some work on yourself and have a sweet metaphorical tool box that’s supportive, but what if you haven’t?
Where does holding onto shit stem from, and why are we so hard headed that we can’t just let “it” go with the shrug of a shoulder? What’s the reward? Marianne Williamson says “when you don’t forgive, the only prisoner is you.” Please read that again. And again, and one more time. 5 years ago this one sentence changed my world.
So with this, there’s really two options: You can spend your life being upset, angry & resentful at the person or situation that’s caused you pain. In this scenario, you risk those thoughts & feelings transforming into something much worse. You see, when we’re angry, our nervous system gets triggered and sends a message to our immune system to shift into fight or flight mode. That’s when walls go up, healthy flow stops and inflammation occurs. Sadly inflammation is the cause of many dis-eases, and this becomes the route we choose when we can’t let go. Is it really worth it?
On the other side, you can allow yourself time to feel the sadness, peel back the layers and begin discovering what wound got poked at? Where in your past were you shamed? Neglected? Abandoned? Embarrassed? Left out? Misunderstood? Felt unloved? Take some time to journal, focus on you, to look at how you can grow from this situation vs “he did this” “she said that” Blaming gets us nowhere, it’s really ego saying “I’m right, he/she’s wrong.”
And in this process, you can close your eye sending love & light daily to your current self, your inner child & to the person who hurt you. There may be some resistance here, I know for me I’m like “yeah ok , going to send love and light to that asshole?!” But yeah, ego again. Remember the more we give the more we get back. Come from a space of LOVE & you will receive LOVE.
Know that forgiveness and letting go is for YOU. It isn't to bring someone back into your life (unless you choose to), it's to cleanse and create space for new, positive, loving energy to flow through.
If we can learn to see each person & situation as a lesson, mirror or medicine for our own personal growth, imagine how different our world could be. You were chosen to be here, to embrace the good, the bad, to learn, grow, accept, forgive, love, embrace and discover. How can we do this if we hold on too tightly and don’t learn to “Let that shit go”?
